Finding your Motivation: The Key to Everything
I remember being in the army and hearing, “false motivation is better than no motivation” and I believed it at the time because it got me through some very short term tasks. That motivation also dissipated after very little time. No one does anything without motivation, this is just a fact of life. If you don’t know what your motivation is or you haven’t reflected on it properly, you’re likely to quit things more easily. At some point in life, things are going to suck and it’s not going to be easy, but if you have the right motivations in mind, it’s a game changer.
The key to finding your motivation is the question, “why?”. For example, why do you want to get a good job? Maybe it’s to make good money, but why do you want to make good money? Maybe you want your family to be comfortable, but why do you want your family to be comfortable? Maybe you grew up without many of the things you desire and want better for your kids…etc.
The more you’re able to ask “why”, the deeper you go to the root of your motivation. It could be about fears, not wanting to experience something again or something completely different. When I do goal setting with my clients, whether it’s general goal setting coaching or forgiveness coaching, this part is the same.
In goal setting, it’s vital to have your long term goals written out, but also your short term (monthly and weekly). All long term goals are made of many little steps along the way. I’m in the process of writing a forgiveness journal and my autobiography. My goal is to publish those books. How do I publish them? need to spend time each week writing, researching or editing.
Think about your motivations: Why do I want to write a book? I want to share my experience and knowledge with the world. I want to share because moving past my traumas was difficult for me and other people are in similar situations that can be helped. I want to help them because I wish someone was able to help me sooner.
The most important thing you should know about goals is that completing them doesn’t define your success. Account for all the change and progress you make along the way. Growth is made in the process of completing your goals, which is why having smaller goals to reach the main goal is important to keep track of. You’ll have clear motivations for each step along the way too because you keep the big picture in mind.
If you’re interested in goal setting or finding your motivations, feel free to reach out.