Anger is merely a surface emotion of a much bigger issue, so we’ll explore the emotions attached to it and get to the root of it so you can begin healing. Think of it as the uncovering phase of your anger. It’s important to note that if you can’t acknowledge…

The idea of “an eye for an eye leave the whole world blind” is about the defense mecahnisms that lead to the cycle of trauma. It never stops because of Displacement, Projection and Denial. The good news is that strategies through forgiveness work that force reflection can break this cycle…

Amateurism in college sports has been gone for a long time and ever since Zac Taylor sued the NCAA over using players’ names and likeness to profit off of video games, there has been increased pressure to treat athletes like employees. I was sad to see the EA Sports games…

Happiness, just like forgiveness, is a choice. People sometimes choose to hold onto things that prevent them from being happy for a variety of reasons. This is part of the “nurture” argument because people tend to stick to what they know, so people try to keep a baseline of the…

“You can’t pour from an empty pitcher” is what my wife told me before I started therapy as an adult. I thought I was capable of love, but had so much anger inside of me and some toxic habits that I had picked up as coping mechanisms that I don’t…

Working on yourself is strenuous and remembering past events you tried to lock away years ago can be draining. When you feel this way, acknowledge it and take a break from the work and reflection. Your feelings are temporary, so a strong sign of emotional intelligence is being able to…

I remember being in the army and hearing, “false motivation is better than no motivation” and I believed it at the time because it got me through some very short term tasks. That motivation also dissipated after very little time. No one does anything without motivation, this is just a…

Every month I read something new on forgiveness as part my personal development and devotion to my clients. One thing I find is that the literature about forgiveness is usually religious based. The book I read this month was “The Four Laws of Forgiveness: How to Forgive Yourself and Others”…

An unenforceable rule is an expectation that we have no control over. Without being mindful of these things, we create unnecessary anger or stress over situations all the time. This isn’t to say we shouldn’t have standards or that people aren’t asshats sometimes, but we need to reexamine what we…